The Subtle Art of Feeling Sensual. For all intensive purposes, I’m using the word ‘sensual’ instead of s.e.x.y — because I don’t want this email to end up in your junk folder!

If you listen to Greg James on Radio 1 in the morning, you’ll know his lighthearted feature “Sexy/Not Sexy.” Listeners (and sometimes co-hosts or celebrity guests) decide whether random, everyday things are “sexy” or “not sexy.” It’s often absurd, like…

• Wearing socks in bed
• A man reversing a trailer
• Someone who brings their own mug to work

Apart from making me laugh, it’s a reminder of how subjective (and ridiculous) the concept of “sexiness” can be.

Naturally, I relate this back to style. And lately, I’ve noticed the word ‘sensual’ coming up more often when clients talk about how they want to feel in their clothes. It’s also a word I’ve been reconnecting to when I think about how I want to feel in mine.

Personally, I naturally gravitate toward clothes that are…un’sensual’. Especially at this time of year when my wardrobe staples — the loafers, the wide-leg trousers, the oversized knits — keep me creatively expressive, but not exactly in a state of subtle sensualness.

I’m obsessed with evolution — the possibility of what’s to come. It’s been a while since I’ve craved this feeling, or even wanted to use the word ‘sensual’ in relation to my style. I think it’s because the word can feel obvious… or rather, its translation into clothing feels obvious: a short skirt, a low-cut top, something bodycon. These aren’t “bad” items, but when they’re the default markers of sensuality, I find them… boring. 🥱

It’s predictably funny that my husband always compliments me when I wear something fitted (which is maybe once a quarter!). Which feeds into my point — that we often equate “showing the body” with “being sensual.”

So how do I / you / we wear clothes that still feel authentic to who we are mentally, but also lean into a sense of sensuality physically?

Start by defining what ‘sensual’ means to you. Once you do, you can start translating that feeling into wearable pieces that align with your style. Create a mood board of people who you find sensual. What words come to mind when you think of their sensual-ness? And how might those qualities translate to you?

For me, ‘sensual’ isn’t about the male gaze — it’s about how connected I feel to my body. When I feel in my body, I feel my most sensual. I want that energy to translate into my clothes — subtly, quietly… sensual, but not “sensual.”

Lately, I’ve noticed myself leaning into this feeling in small ways, and I want more of it:

• Sensual fabrics that drape
• More defined hourglass cuts
• Unexpected cut-outs in knitwear
• Sheer fabrics paired with masculine tailoring
• Oversized leather pieces

But it’s not just the items — it’s how they’re combined that brings the right energy to a look.

These are the pieces that feel sensual to me right now… what do you think — sensual or not sensual?

Penny

P.S. Exploring our clients’ style is one of my favourite parts of what we do — and it’s not just about exploration. We translate and execute your stylistic vision with precision. Let’s talk about what’s possible for your style. Book your call here.

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